# Top 5 Best Positions for First-Time Sex **By EjaGuard Delay Spray** · 2025-07-07 ## **Missionary with Pillow Support** ![Amazon.com: Liberator Jaz Original Sex Positioning Pillow - Microvelvet, Rose : Health & Household](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/81x8bFBPHnL._UF350,350_QL80_.jpg) **Best for:** Comfort, control, and emotional connection **How to do it:** The receiving partner lies on their back with a small pillow under the hips to elevate the pelvis. The penetrating partner enters slowly from on top. **Why it's perfect for first time:** - Allows eye contact and intimacy - Gives the penetrating partner control over depth - Minimal strain on either partner Adding a **water-based lubricant** can reduce friction and enhance comfort. Enhance comfort with a water-based lubricant like our [EjaGuard Lubricant Collection](https://ejaguard.com/collections/lubricant "Link to EjaGuard Lubricant Collection"), specially formulated to reduce friction and elevate your experience. ## **Spooning** **Best for:** Gentle entry and reduced performance anxiety **How to do it:** Both partners lie on their sides, with the penetrating partner behind. **Why it works:** - Relaxed and non-threatening - Easy to communicate mid-act - Short strokes prevent overstimulation This position offers a cozy, romantic vibe, ideal for easing into the experience. This gentle position pairs well with [EjaGuard's Delay+Lube](https://ejaguard.com/products/ejaguard-delay-spray "Link to EjaGuard's Delay+Lube") for smoother, more controlled motion. ## **Cowgirl (Slow Grind)** **Best for:** Giving the receiving partner control **How to do it:** The penetrating partner lies down while the receiving partner straddles and lowers herself gently. **Why it’s beginner-friendly:** - She controls depth and pace - Excellent for angling and avoiding discomfort - Perfect for couples who want a shared rhythm Many say this is the **best sex position for beginners** who want to feel in control. Try pairing this with a [clitoral-stimulating toy](https://ejaguard.com/collections/sex-toys "Link to clitoral-stimulating toy") from EjaGuard for enhanced pleasure and control. ## **Coital Alignment Technique (CAT)** **Best for:** G-spot stimulation with less thrusting **How to do it:** A slight variation of missionary where the penetrating partner grinds their pelvis into the clitoris instead of thrusting in and out. **Why it works for the first time:** - No aggressive thrusting - Great for mutual stimulation - Creates rhythm and pressure without discomfort This position promotes emotional closeness and physical control — ideal for first-time couples. For an even more pleasurable experience, explore our [EjaGuard Orgasm Gels](https://ejaguard.com/collections/orgasm-gel "Link to EjaGuard Orgasm Gels"), crafted to heighten sensitivity during intimate positions like CAT. ## **Side-by-Side Facing** **Best for:** Eye contact, reduced tension, and slow pace **How to do it:** Both partners lie on their sides, facing each other. The receiving partner wraps a leg over their partner’s hip. **Why it's great:** - Intimate and non-intimidating - Encourages soft, shallow strokes - Reduces pressure on joints and muscles This one’s a go-to for those asking about the **most comfortable position for first time sex**. Pair this position with a gentle [water-based lubricant](https://ejaguard.com/collections/lubricant "Link to water-based lubricant") from EjaGuard to ensure a smooth, comfortable experience. ## Positions to Avoid the First Time  Some sex positions may be exciting, but they’re not ideal when you’re just getting started. ### Avoid These: - **Doggy Style**: Too deep and intense for most beginners - **Standing Positions**: Hard to balance and align - **Wheelbarrow or Piledriver**: These are advanced and require trust, strength, and flexibility These positions may cause discomfort or feel too rough for a first encounter. Save them for later explorations. Focus instead on **slow and intimate positions** that encourage communication and feedback. Instead of these advanced moves, consider beginner-friendly options like those highlighted in our [Beginner’s Guide to Better Sex](https://ejaguard.com/blogs/blog "Link to Beginner’s Guide to Better Sex"), designed for comfort and connection. ## Tips for Comfort & Communication ![Amazon.com: Liberator Jaz Original Sex Positioning Pillow - Microvelvet, Blue : Health & Household](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/81X4JXOpYnL._UF1000,1000_QL80_.jpg) Having sex for the first time involves more than physical technique. Here are smart tips to ensure a smoother, more enjoyable experience: ### Before You Start: - **Talk About Expectations**: Share your comfort zones and boundaries - **Use Natural Lubricant**: EjaGuard's Delay+Lube can help reduce friction - **Set the Mood**: Soft lighting, relaxed atmosphere, and music work wonders ### During: - **Start Slow**: Rushing increases discomfort - **Check-In Often**: Use simple phrases like 'Is this okay?' or 'Should we slow down?' - **Breathe and Relax**: Tension can make penetration harder or painful ### After: - **Cuddle**: Builds trust and connection - **Talk About It**: Share what felt good and what didn’t — it’ll only get better from here Being present and compassionate is just as important as technique. ## Best Lubes & Tools for First-Time Sex ![Vaginal Lubrication: Vaginal Dryness, Vaginal Health, and More](https://media.post.rvohealth.io/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/header-image-2.jpg) Lubrication is your best friend during your first time. Even if arousal is high, your body may not produce enough natural wetness due to nerves. ### Use: - **Water-Based Lubricants** – Gentle and safe with condoms - **EjaGuard Delay+Lube** – Combines glide with desensitizing agents to help delay climax Avoid oil-based lubes as they can break condoms and irritate sensitive skin. ### Bonus Tools: - **Small Vibe for Clitoral Teasing** (with consent) - **Condoms** – Always use protection to avoid STIs and unplanned pregnancies Good tools lead to great first experiences. ## FAQs  ### **What is the best position for first time sex?** Missionary with a pillow or spooning are excellent for comfort and control. They allow for slow penetration and communication. ### **Does it hurt the first time?** It might for some. Using lube, going slow, and choosing gentle positions greatly reduces discomfort. ### **How long should first-time sex last?** There’s no set time. Focus on connection, not a clock. First times can be short — that’s normal and okay. ### **Should we talk during sex?** Yes! Communication is key. Whispering feedback or checking in shows care and builds trust. ### **What if it doesn’t go as planned?** That’s totally okay. Laugh it off, cuddle, and try again another time. It’s part of the journey. **Tags:** best sex position for beginners, gentle sex for first time, how to make sex comfortable, intimate sex positions, sex advice for beginners --- > Source: [EjaGuard](https://ejaguard.com/blogs/blog/best-position-for-first-time-sex)