How to Sext: Tips, Examples, and Rules to Keep It Hot and Safe

Introduction

Sexting is more than just sending spicy messages. It's a fun, flirty way to build anticipation, spark desire, and create a deeper connection with your partner. Wondering how to sext without sounding awkward or forced? You're not alone. Whether you're in a long-term relationship or just started dating, learning how to sext your partner the right way can level up your intimacy.

In this guide, you'll learn everything from sexting safety to real message examples. Ready to make your partner blush?

Want to turn up the heat even more? Pair sexting with real-life intimacy tools like EjaGuard’s orgasm gels or lingerie collection to make your fantasies come alive.

What Is Sexting?

Sexting is the act of sending sexually suggestive or explicit messages, photos, or videos via phone, messaging apps, or social media. It can be as subtle as a flirty tease or as bold as a steamy paragraph. Most importantly, it's about consent, fun, and connection.

Modern couples use sexting to spice up routines, explore fantasies, or stay close when apart. From emojis to full-on storytelling, sexting is all about playing with desire through words.

Modern couples also spice things up by combining sexting with real-life play using EjaGuard sex toys and delay sprays that keep the excitement going offline.

Is Sexting Safe? 

Like anything digital, sexting comes with risks. But with the right precautions, it can be a safe and exciting part of your relationship.

Safety tips when sexting:

• Use secure, encrypted messaging apps

• Avoid showing your face in explicit photos

• Never sext under pressure or when intoxicated

• Set boundaries before things heat up

• Respect each other's privacy and limits

Trust is the foundation. Only sext with someone you fully trust—and who trusts you back.

Just like using condoms or delay sprays, sexting safely means respecting boundaries and protecting your privacy — a topic EjaGuard covers in depth on their blog.

When and How to Start Sexting

Not sure when to initiate sexting? Look for signs that your partner is flirty or curious. If they send suggestive emojis, compliment your body, or talk about missing your touch—they’re probably open to more.

How to start sexting without being awkward:

• Begin with compliments: 'I can’t stop thinking about last night.'

• Use humor: *'This outfit should be illegal. Want a sneak peek?'

• Ask playful questions: *'What would you do if I were in your bed right now?'

The goal is to ease into it. Build the heat naturally. The EjaGuard Blog also shares scripts, examples, and tips for initiating sexting that feels authentic and exciting — not awkward.

How to Sext: Step-by-Step Guide

Here’s a quick guide on how to sext like a pro:

Step 1: Start Flirty

Keep it light. Start with a compliment, memory, or cheeky thought.

*Example: 'I had a dream about you last night. Want to know what happened?'

Step 2: Build Anticipation

Slowly turn up the heat with suggestive language and curiosity.

'I keep thinking about how soft your skin feels... and what I’d do if I had you here.'

Step 3: Be Descriptive (But Respectful)

Use your words to paint a picture. Focus on sensations, not just actions.

'I’d kiss your neck slowly, trace my fingers down your back, and... well, you’d have to wait to find out.'

Step 4: Ask for Consent

Check in to make sure your partner is comfortable.

'Is this turning you on too?'

Step 5: React and Engage

Respond to their messages. Keep the energy going and let it evolve naturally.

What to Say When Sexting: Ideas & Examples

Need ideas? Here are some sexting messages for every mood:

For Beginners:

• 'I can’t stop thinking about your lips on mine.'

• 'What are you wearing right now? Be honest.'

For Long-Distance Couples:

• 'If you were here right now, I’d pull you close and…'

• 'I want to fall asleep on video call with you whispering naughty things.'

For Serious Heat:

• 'I want to explore every inch of you... slowly.'

• 'I’m hard/wet just thinking about what I’d do to you.'

Remember: tailor your texts to your relationship style.

Sexting Tips for Men and Women

For Men:

• Be confident, not crude

• Compliment more than you command

• Don’t go straight to graphic—build the vibe first

For Women:

• Use teasing and storytelling

• Don’t be afraid to take the lead

• Voice notes or photos (with consent) can turn up the heat

No matter your role, make your partner feel desired and respected.

Sexting Mistakes to Avoid

Even experienced sexters mess up. Here’s what not to do:

• Going too fast: Give the conversation time to build

• Being too graphic too soon: It can feel forced or off-putting

• Ignoring signals: If your partner isn’t responding with the same energy, ease off

• Sending without consent: Never assume it’s okay to send explicit content

Sexting in a Relationship vs New Dating

In a relationship, sexting is about keeping the spark alive. You already have a connection—sexting builds on it.

In early dating, it's more about testing boundaries. Always start slow and respectful. Don’t pressure someone into sexting before they’re ready.

The key in both cases? Communication.

Conclusion + Call to Action

Sexting can be playful, passionate, and powerful—if done right. Whether you're learning how to sext your partner for the first time or looking to spice things up, keep it fun, consensual, and authentic.

Want to take it to the next level? Try EjaGuard’s natural delay sprays and lubricants to enhance your intimate moments in real life.

FAQs

What is sexting?

Sexting is the act of sending sexually suggestive or explicit messages, photos, or videos through text or messaging apps.

How do I start sexting without being awkward?

Start with flirty or playful compliments. Ease into it by reading your partner's energy.

Is sexting safe?

It can be safe if you use trusted messaging platforms, avoid showing your face in nudes, and only sext with trusted partners.

What are good things to say while sexting?

Try lines like 'I want to feel your hands on me' or 'I’m craving your touch right now.' Keep it specific and sensual.

Can sexting improve relationships?

Yes! When done with consent and creativity, sexting can boost intimacy, desire, and emotional closeness.