How to Be More Intimate in Sex: 7 Proven Ways to Build a Deeper Connection

Introduction

Sex isn’t just about physical pleasure — it’s about connection. Feeling truly intimate in sex can turn an ordinary moment into something unforgettable.

But many couples struggle to build that closeness in the bedroom. Tools like the EjaGuard Delay Spray can support couples in overcoming performance-related barriers, allowing more space for intimacy.

In this article, you’ll learn exactly what intimacy in sex means, why it matters, and how to deepen it.

Whether you’ve been together for years or are just starting out, these tips will help you feel more emotionally and physically connected during sex.

What Does Being ‘Intimate in Sex’ Truly Mean? 

Being intimate in sex means more than just touching bodies. It’s about connecting hearts, minds, and emotions too. When you’re truly intimate with your partner, sex feels safer, more fulfilling, and often more pleasurable.

Intimacy during sex involves vulnerability — being open, honest, and emotionally present. It’s about looking into your partner’s eyes, sharing your fantasies, and listening with empathy. This connection builds trust and allows both partners to relax and fully enjoy the experience.

It’s not about lasting the longest or performing perfectly. It’s about feeling close — in every way.

This emotional closeness can enhance every touch, kiss, and climax. In fact, intimacy is often the secret ingredient to better sex, deeper orgasms, and stronger relationships.

Emotional vs Physical Intimacy: Why Both Matter 

There are two types of intimacy in sex — emotional and physical. Both are powerful, but together, they’re unstoppable.

Physical intimacy is the touch, kiss, and act of sex itself. It involves arousal, chemistry, and the physical sensations of pleasure.

Emotional intimacy, on the other hand, is about how connected you feel emotionally. It’s that sense of ‘we’re in this together’ — the safety and trust to be fully yourself.

When you have emotional intimacy, physical intimacy becomes more meaningful. You’re not just going through the motions — you’re feeling each moment.

If you're missing either one, sex can feel mechanical or distant. But when both are present, it’s pure magic. To enhance physical intimacy, couples often use sensual aids like EjaGuard lubricants, which can heighten comfort and pleasure during sex.

Barriers to Intimacy in Bed (And How to Fix Them) 

Even couples who love each other can feel distant in the bedroom. Here are some common barriers to feeling intimate in sex — and how to overcome them:

• Lack of communication: If you're not talking about your desires or boundaries, it’s hard to feel close. Start small with simple questions like ‘What do you like most during sex?’

• Performance anxiety: Worrying about lasting longer or pleasing your partner can keep you stuck in your head. Try focusing on pleasure over performance.

• Emotional disconnection: If you’re not emotionally connected outside of sex, it may show up in the bedroom. Make time to bond — even if it's just a five-minute cuddle.

• Boredom or routine: Doing the same thing over and over can dull intimacy. Explore new things together — like trying a new position or sharing fantasies.

Remember: intimacy is built moment by moment, not all at once.

Boredom or routine: Doing the same thing over and over can dull intimacy. Exploring new sensations with EjaGuard sex toys can reignite excitement and deepen your connection.

7 Ways to Be More Intimate in Sex

Ready to deepen your connection? Here are seven ways to feel more intimate in sex — starting tonight.

1. Eye Contact

Locking eyes during foreplay or sex builds trust and vulnerability. It’s one of the fastest ways to feel connected.

2. Talk About Desires

Share your fantasies. Ask your partner about theirs. Open conversations create emotional intimacy and reduce shame.

3. Slow Things Down

Quickies are fun, but slowing down allows both of you to feel each moment deeply. Focus on sensual touch, kissing, and presence.

4. Practice Mutual Touch

Take turns pleasuring each other without rushing to climax. This builds anticipation and emotional closeness. Take turns pleasuring each other without rushing to climax. Consider incorporating EjaGuard orgasm gels to heighten sensation and enhance shared pleasure.

5. Use Music, Scents, or Lighting

Create a sensual atmosphere. A dim room with soft music can set the tone for deeper, more connected intimacy.

6. Cuddle After Sex

Post-sex cuddling releases oxytocin — the bonding hormone. Holding each other after orgasm helps sustain that intimate feeling.

7. Try Intimacy-Boosting Exercises

Practice mindful breathing together or try syncing your breaths during foreplay. This creates a calm, focused connection.

Tip: Doing Kegel exercises can help you last longer in bed, which gives you more time to build that intimate rhythm. Many men report feeling more confident and emotionally open when they’re not worried about finishing too soon.

Want to last longer and enjoy these intimate moments more fully? Combine these with breathing control or delay products designed to enhance stamina. Studies also suggest that mindful sex practices improve satisfaction by increasing emotional presence.

Sex Positions That Encourage Intimacy 

Some sex positions create a stronger emotional connection. Here are three you can try tonight:

1. Yab-Yum

Sit face-to-face with your partner in a cross-legged position. Wrap your arms around each other. This allows full eye contact, slow thrusts, and deep emotional connection.

2. Spooning

Lying side by side, the receiving partner is curled into the other. It’s perfect for closeness, soft whispers, and gentle movement.

3. Cowgirl (Face to Face)

Let your partner on top take control. This gives her the power to guide pace and depth while you focus on connection and pleasure.

These positions are all about closeness — both emotionally and physically.

Want to last longer and enjoy these intimate moments more fully? Combine these with breathing control or products designed to enhance stamina.

Using Products to Enhance Intimacy

If climax control is an issue, it can interrupt that emotional flow. That’s where products like EjaGuard Delay Spray come in.

Designed to naturally reduce sensitivity without numbing your connection, EjaGuard helps you last longer — giving both of you time to build real intimacy.

Plus, EjaGuard uses safe, dermatologist-tested ingredients that won’t interrupt your partner’s pleasure. It’s a subtle way to enhance connection while keeping the moment special.

Pair it with foreplay and intimacy exercises for best results. You can also explore EjaGuard masturbators or dildos as tools for self-exploration or partnered play.

Because the more confident you feel in your performance, the more present you can be with your partner.

Final Thoughts: Deeper Intimacy, Better Sex 

Intimacy is the heart of unforgettable sex. It's not just about what you do in bed — it’s about how close you feel while doing it.

Whether you're building emotional connection or exploring physical touch, being more intimate in sex leads to more pleasure, trust, and satisfaction.

So take the time. Make it meaningful.