Sexsomnia Explained

What Is Sexsomnia?

Sexsomnia, also known as sleep sex, is a rare but real condition where someone engages in sexual behavior while asleep. That might include masturbation, moaning, touching a partner, or even attempting intercourse, all without any memory of it the next day.

Sexsomnia falls under a group of sleep disorders known as parasomnias, which also includes sleepwalking and night terrors. While it may sound bizarre or even humorous, it can be deeply distressing—both for the person experiencing it and their partner.

Is Sexsomnia a Real Disorder?

Yes, sexsomnia is recognized as a legitimate medical condition. It has been documented in sleep studies and listed in the International Classification of Sleep Disorders (ICSD).

Although rare, it is often underdiagnosed due to embarrassment or lack of awareness. Experts agree that more research is needed, but the disorder is real, diagnosable, and treatable.

Sexsomnia Symptoms: What to Look For

Sexsomnia symptoms usually occur during non-REM sleep—the same stage where sleepwalking happens. Common behaviors include:

• Unconscious sexual touching or stroking

• Masturbating in bed while asleep

• Moaning or dirty talk with no recollection

• Attempting or initiating intercourse

• No memory of events upon waking

• Resistance to being awakened

In some cases, partners are the first to notice and report these symptoms. Recognizing the signs early is essential for both diagnosis and relationship health.

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What Causes Sexsomnia?

The exact causes of sexsomnia aren’t fully understood, but several triggers have been identified:

Common Triggers:

• Stress or anxiety

• Alcohol or drug use

• Sleep deprivation

• Shift work or irregular sleep schedules

• Obstructive sleep apnea

• Other parasomnias like sleepwalking or night terrors

Genetics may also play a role. People with a family history of sleep disorders could be more prone to developing sexsomnia.

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Sexsomnia vs Sleepwalking: Key Differences

Though both conditions are non-REM parasomnias, there are differences:

Sexsomnia carries more emotional and relational consequences than traditional sleepwalking, especially in relationships.

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Is Sexsomnia Dangerous?

In some cases, yes.

While not physically harmful on its own, sexsomnia can lead to serious consequences:

• Emotional distress for both partners

• Non-consensual sexual activity (when a partner is asleep or unaware)

• Relationship strain or conflict

• Legal implications if the disorder leads to unwanted contact

This is why open communication and medical diagnosis are crucial if symptoms appear.

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How Sexsomnia Is Diagnosed

If you suspect sexsomnia, a visit to a sleep specialist or neurologist is recommended. Here’s what to expect:

Diagnosis Methods:

• Sleep history review

• Partner reports of nighttime behavior

• Polysomnography (overnight sleep study)

• Video EEG monitoring

During a sleep study, doctors can monitor your brainwaves, heart rate, breathing, and movements to detect unusual behavior.

Early diagnosis can prevent emotional damage and help manage the condition properly.

How to Treat Sexsomnia

There’s no one-size-fits-all cure, but treatment focuses on managing symptoms and triggers.

✅ Common Treatment Options:

• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
  Helps reduce anxiety and stress triggers

• Medication
  Such as clonazepam or antidepressants to regulate sleep

• CPAP therapy (for sleep apnea)
  If breathing disruptions contribute to sexsomnia

• Sleep hygiene changes
  Regular bedtimes, avoiding alcohol, and reducing screen time

Lifestyle Tips:

• Get 7–9 hours of sleep

• Avoid drugs and alcohol

• Create a calm, consistent bedtime routine

With consistent management, most people see a significant reduction in episodes.

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How to Talk to a Partner About Sexsomnia

Discussing sexsomnia can feel awkward or embarrassing, but communication is key. Here’s how to start the conversation:

• Be honest but gentle:
  'Something strange might be happening during my sleep and I’d like to get it checked out.'

• Reassure your partner:
  It’s involuntary and not a reflection of desire or disrespect.

• Involve them in the process:
  Their observations can help during diagnosis.

• Consider couples therapy if tension builds.

Being upfront builds trust and teamwork, rather than shame or secrecy.

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FAQs About Sexsomnia

❓ What is sexsomnia?

Sexsomnia is a rare sleep disorder where a person engages in sexual activity while asleep, with no memory of it afterward.

❓ Is sexsomnia treatable?

Yes. Therapy, medication, and sleep hygiene can reduce or eliminate symptoms in many cases.

❓ Can sexsomnia affect relationships?

Absolutely. It can create confusion, mistrust, or emotional distress. But with support and treatment, couples can work through it.

❓ Is sexsomnia considered sexual assault?

This is a complex issue. If someone engages in sex while unaware and their partner does not or cannot consent, it may have legal and ethical implications. Medical documentation and open communication are important in these situations.

❓ Can you grow out of sexsomnia?

Some people may experience fewer episodes over time, especially with lifestyle changes. But it's important to seek professional advice.