Top 5 Best Positions for First-Time Sex

Missionary with Pillow Support

Best for: Comfort, control, and emotional connection
How to do it: The receiving partner lies on their back with a small pillow under the hips to elevate the pelvis. The penetrating partner enters slowly from on top.

Why it's perfect for first time:

• Allows eye contact and intimacy

• Gives the penetrating partner control over depth

• Minimal strain on either partner

Adding a water-based lubricant can reduce friction and enhance comfort.

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Spooning

Best for: Gentle entry and reduced performance anxiety
How to do it: Both partners lie on their sides, with the penetrating partner behind.

Why it works:

• Relaxed and non-threatening

• Easy to communicate mid-act

• Short strokes prevent overstimulation

This position offers a cozy, romantic vibe, ideal for easing into the experience.

This gentle position pairs well with EjaGuard's Delay+Lube for smoother, more controlled motion.

Cowgirl (Slow Grind)

Best for: Giving the receiving partner control
How to do it: The penetrating partner lies down while the receiving partner straddles and lowers herself gently.

Why it’s beginner-friendly:

• She controls depth and pace

• Excellent for angling and avoiding discomfort

• Perfect for couples who want a shared rhythm

Many say this is the best sex position for beginners who want to feel in control.

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Coital Alignment Technique (CAT)

Best for: G-spot stimulation with less thrusting
How to do it: A slight variation of missionary where the penetrating partner grinds their pelvis into the clitoris instead of thrusting in and out.

Why it works for the first time:

• No aggressive thrusting

• Great for mutual stimulation

• Creates rhythm and pressure without discomfort

This position promotes emotional closeness and physical control — ideal for first-time couples.

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Side-by-Side Facing

Best for: Eye contact, reduced tension, and slow pace
How to do it: Both partners lie on their sides, facing each other. The receiving partner wraps a leg over their partner’s hip.

Why it's great:

• Intimate and non-intimidating

• Encourages soft, shallow strokes

• Reduces pressure on joints and muscles

This one’s a go-to for those asking about the most comfortable position for first time sex.

Pair this position with a gentle water-based lubricant from EjaGuard to ensure a smooth, comfortable experience.

Positions to Avoid the First Time 

Some sex positions may be exciting, but they’re not ideal when you’re just getting started.

Avoid These:

• Doggy Style: Too deep and intense for most beginners

• Standing Positions: Hard to balance and align

• Wheelbarrow or Piledriver: These are advanced and require trust, strength, and flexibility

These positions may cause discomfort or feel too rough for a first encounter. Save them for later explorations.

Focus instead on slow and intimate positions that encourage communication and feedback.

Instead of these advanced moves, consider beginner-friendly options like those highlighted in our Beginner’s Guide to Better Sex, designed for comfort and connection.

Tips for Comfort & Communication

Having sex for the first time involves more than physical technique. Here are smart tips to ensure a smoother, more enjoyable experience:

Before You Start:

• Talk About Expectations: Share your comfort zones and boundaries

• Use Natural Lubricant: EjaGuard's Delay+Lube can help reduce friction

• Set the Mood: Soft lighting, relaxed atmosphere, and music work wonders

During:

• Start Slow: Rushing increases discomfort

• Check-In Often: Use simple phrases like 'Is this okay?' or 'Should we slow down?'

• Breathe and Relax: Tension can make penetration harder or painful

After:

• Cuddle: Builds trust and connection

• Talk About It: Share what felt good and what didn’t — it’ll only get better from here

Being present and compassionate is just as important as technique.

Best Lubes & Tools for First-Time Sex

Lubrication is your best friend during your first time. Even if arousal is high, your body may not produce enough natural wetness due to nerves.

Use:

• Water-Based Lubricants – Gentle and safe with condoms

• EjaGuard Delay+Lube – Combines glide with desensitizing agents to help delay climax

Avoid oil-based lubes as they can break condoms and irritate sensitive skin.

Bonus Tools:

• Small Vibe for Clitoral Teasing (with consent)

• Condoms – Always use protection to avoid STIs and unplanned pregnancies

Good tools lead to great first experiences.

FAQs 

What is the best position for first time sex?

Missionary with a pillow or spooning are excellent for comfort and control. They allow for slow penetration and communication.

Does it hurt the first time?

It might for some. Using lube, going slow, and choosing gentle positions greatly reduces discomfort.

How long should first-time sex last?

There’s no set time. Focus on connection, not a clock. First times can be short — that’s normal and okay.

Should we talk during sex?

Yes! Communication is key. Whispering feedback or checking in shows care and builds trust.

What if it doesn’t go as planned?

That’s totally okay. Laugh it off, cuddle, and try again another time. It’s part of the journey.