How to Sex With Toys: The Ultimate Beginner’s Guide for Couples

Introduction

Curious about how to sex with toys? You're not alone.

More couples than ever are adding toys to their bedroom routine—and for good reason. Whether you're looking to spice things up, build more intimacy, or simply explore new sensations, sex toys can bring excitement and deeper pleasure to your relationship.

In this beginner-friendly guide, we’ll walk you through exactly how to use sex toys with a partner, the best types to try first, and key tips to ensure a safe, sexy experience you’ll both love.

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Why Use Sex Toys as a Couple?

Sex toys aren’t just for solo play. They can seriously level up your shared experiences.

Here’s why more couples are embracing bedroom tools:

• More Pleasure: Toys offer sensations you just can't achieve with body parts alone.

• Better Communication: Trying toys often sparks new conversations about desires.

• Deeper Connection: Shared exploration builds trust, fun, and intimacy.

• Lasting Longer: Some toys help delay ejaculation, keeping the pleasure going longer.

So, if you’ve ever wondered how to use sex toys with your partner, know this—there’s no one-size-fits-all way. It’s about experimenting, learning, and enjoying the ride together.

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Types of Sex Toys to Explore Together

Before you dive in, it helps to know what options are out there. Here are some of the most beginner-friendly sex toys for couples:

1. Vibrators

Great for clitoral, penile, or full-body stimulation. Choose bullet, wand, or couple’s vibrators that can be used during sex.

2. Penis Rings

These help maintain firmer erections and may help delay ejaculation. Bonus: many rings vibrate for extra pleasure.

3. Lubricants (Yes, They're Toys Too)

Lube reduces friction and enhances sensation—especially if you're using toys or trying new positions.

4. Plugs and Probes

For those curious about anal play, small plugs or prostate massagers offer new sensations with minimal pressure.

5. Masturbation Sleeves & Strokers

Use them on him while you take control, or turn them into part of your foreplay routine.

Each of these toys can be used in a variety of ways. The key? Start slow and have fun discovering what feels good.

Not sure where to start? Try a variety of lubricants to discover which textures and formulas suit you best.

How to Sex With Toys: Step-by-Step Guide

If you’re new to the world of pleasure tools, here’s how to sex with toys in a way that feels natural and exciting.

Step 1: Start with Talk, Not Touch

Before anything physical, talk it out.

• What toy are you curious about?

• How do you want to use it—during foreplay or penetration?

• Any hard no’s or boundaries?

Open communication ensures that both partners feel safe and respected.

Step 2: Pick a Toy Together

Make it a date night! Browse options online or visit a store together.
Look for toys labeled couples-friendly or beginner-safe.

Tip: Go for waterproof, silicone-based toys—they’re body-safe and easy to clean.

Step 3: Set the Mood

Dim the lights. Light a candle. Put on music you both enjoy.
When you introduce toys in a relaxed, sensual space, it becomes part of the connection—not a performance.

Step 4: Use Lube Liberally

No matter which toy you’re using, lube makes everything smoother and more pleasurable.
Water-based lubes are safe for all toys. Want something long-lasting? Try silicone-based (just make sure it’s compatible with your toy).

Step 5: Go Slow and Communicate Often

The first time isn’t about performance—it’s about play.
Start with external stimulation. Explore erogenous zones like nipples, inner thighs, or the clitoris before using a toy internally.

Talk about what feels good. Use soft prompts like:

• ‘Do you like this speed?’

• ‘Want more pressure?’

• ‘How does this feel?’

Step 6: Use Toys During Sex

Yes, toys can be used during penetration. A small vibrator or penis ring can bring shared pleasure during intercourse.
Take turns or use the toy together—it’s about creating new rhythms and sensations.

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Communication & Consent: Must-Haves Before Play

Communication is sexy. And consent is non-negotiable.

Before introducing any toy into your routine, make sure both of you are on the same page. Even during play, check in regularly.

Pro tip: Use a code word (like ‘pause’ or ‘yellow’) to instantly communicate comfort levels during new experiences.

Remember: Consent isn’t just about saying yes. It’s about both people being genuinely excited and engaged in the experience.

Safety Tips for Using Sex Toys

Using toys safely ensures that your pleasure doesn’t come with problems.

Here’s how to stay safe:

• Always Clean Toys Before & After Use
  Use warm water and toy-safe soap or cleaner.

• Use Body-Safe Materials Only
  Silicone, stainless steel, and ABS plastic are safe bets. Avoid jelly rubber—it can harbor bacteria.

• Avoid Sharing Penetrative Toys Without Protection
  Use condoms if switching between partners or orifices.

• Don’t Use Anything That Hurts
  Mild discomfort is not the goal. If it stings, pinches, or burns—stop.

• Start Small, Literally
  Begin with smaller toys until your body adjusts and comfort grows.

Our toys are crafted from non-toxic, body-safe materials to ensure you can play with confidence.

Best Beginner Sex Toys for Couples

Looking for your first toy? Here are our top beginner-friendly picks:

1. Mini Vibrator
   Small, discreet, and versatile. Can be used during foreplay or intercourse.

2. Couple’s Ring (Vibrating)
   Helps him last longer while stimulating her externally.

3. Bullet Vibe
   Ideal for teasing and warming up erogenous zones.

4. Lube Sampler Pack
   Try different formulas to see what feels best together.

5. Remote-Controlled Vibrator
   Gives one partner control for playful teasing during foreplay or sex.

These toys are not just tools—they’re invitations to more pleasure, deeper connection, and new levels of satisfaction.

Conclusion & Takeaway

Learning how to sex with toys doesn’t require expert skills—just openness, curiosity, and care.

By choosing the right tools, setting the mood, and focusing on pleasure (not performance), couples can enhance their bond and create unforgettable moments of intimacy.

Ready to try something new tonight? Explore our favorite couples-friendly toys at EjaGuard and start building your pleasure toolkit—naturally and safely.